The WhatsApp message detailing the long list of requirements of a groom for his would-be bride has been doing rounds on social media, generating huge debate. The text describes that the groom a PhD holder, and gold medalist from Chennai insisted that his wife’s BMI should be less than 24, she should be able to manage the entire household without any help, and look at her career either as something secondary or optional. The message, which has been forwarded in X (formerly Twitter) by singer Chinmayi Sripaada, has received divided opinions from people, where some lashed out against the groom’s mentality, while others supported the idea that it is his choice and his wish.
Chennai Groom’s Requirement For Marriage
The controversy broke out when Chinmayi Sripaada posted this message on her X account, captioning with, ‘This is the exact List Of Requirements that a Groom sent to a prospective bride who is a Medico. He is a PhD and Gold Medallist. LOL.’ The list mentions the bridegroom’s expectations from the bride: ‘graceful, competent, and smart enough to handle her home and family matters,’ with special emphasis on bringing ‘color, variety, and liveliness’ into the family’s lifestyle due to physical contributions alone. On the listing, one of the main requirements was that the bride should have a BMI of 24 or less a requirement underpinned by the aspect of physical appearance following the tastes of the groom.
This is the exact List Of Requirements that a Groom sent to a prospective bride who is a Medico.
Groom is a PhD and Gold Medallist apparently.LOL. pic.twitter.com/Oz5bmOKqQz
— Chinmayi Sripaada (@Chinmayi) August 21, 2024
Social Media Criticizes Groom’s Demands
The post went viral in absolutely no time, racking up close to 2.4 lakh views and about 1,800 likes as users in X voiced their opinions about it. Several users seemed quite quick to jump on the bandwagon of tearing the groom apart for such unrealistic and archaic demands. One user said, ‘BMI is also mentioned, interesting. Legit, I would like to see this groom’s photo somehow and see where he stands.’ Another user criticized, ‘Seems very unrealistic and archaic. I don’t think any woman smart enough for his requirements would ever agree to this. Bro has to spend his life being single if he doesn’t change his mindset.
Support For Groom’s Right To Choose
Others stood up to justify the groom’s freedom to select whom he wished to be his partner in the marital journey, emphasizing that similar to the bride and her family’s standards, that of the groom should be taken into consideration. One commenter replied, ‘They are entitled to have their preferences the way a bride’s family would be having (6 figure salary, stay separate from parents after marriage, etc)’. Another user replied, ‘I kind of appreciate him, as he is clear in his mind – what he wants. There are tons of girls who like to be in this role, non-ambitious, homely, and taking care of home’. ‘As we shouldn’t shame independent women for their decision, we shouldn’t shame ones who want to be homemakers. I respect this dude ’cause he didn’t sugarcoat it, though.’
Debate On Gender Roles In Marriage
Despite the vigorous debate, a few users questioned if the message was created or exaggerated for publicity. One skeptical reader of the post commented: ‘2 minutes of silence for anyone that believes this really happened.’ Another user responded with their experience, defending the genuineness of the post: “It’s funny to see people in the comments saying this is fake because his parents have sent me at least a dozen highly educated morons over the years who have said the same kind of stuff to my face.
The viral message has thrown open a discussion on not only the expectations from women entering marriage but also put out a bigger question before society as to how traditional gender roles and social norms continue to influence matrimonial decisions in modern times. Seen either as a valid expression of personal preference or an archaic and unrealistic demand, the groom’s list whatever it may be has undeniably captured the attention of social media users and provided a wake-up call for a wider discourse on marriage expectations.
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