Whether it’s academic or sports achievements, “Well done”, “Good job” or “You’re so smart” are common praises to tasks well done.
But using these encouraging words doesn’t always produce the desired increase in motivation. In fact, incorporating them appropriately can work to your benefit and form a formidable bond with your child.
1. Praise Sincerely And Honestly: We sometimes praise our children purposely to boost their self-esteem, motivate them, encourage certain behavior, or protect from them from hurtful feelings. However, if praises aren't perceived as sincere and honest, children won’t feel very encouraged.
2. Be Specific and Descriptive: Encouraging words for kids are commonly given out in school and at home. When used right, these encouraging words can have powerful positive effects on kids. This is because positive reinforcement can condition a child to repeat the praised behavior.
3. Avoid Conditonal Praise: Controlling praise is different from positive informational feedback used to affirm a child’s progress, improvement, or task mastery. It is given with the intent to manipulate or control.