Done, oh so done, are the times when a woman heard her body clock ticking loudly and faster than her heartbeats! Been meaning to write on this topic for a long time. For a woman of today, that wants to achieve a lot from herself, the option of having children later rather than sooner is very much a viable option. When speaking to some of my college gurls, we realized that in our 20s, we ran at the opposite direction of even the thought of caring for a child. Why was this? It’s because of Sex and the City, it was! Those fashionistas with their high heels, loaded bags, venerating jobs and uber-satisfying nightlife completely brainwashed us! We didn’t feel objectified anymore, and we lauded the men that married us in our late 20s (all of them from the same culture as us) and didn’t opt for those ultra-fertile 19 year olds. Then we spoke about becoming mothers in our 30s (I was 30 on the dot) and how we were happy to be at that age and didn’t feel the need to hurry back to our careers cuz we had it all at some point or the other. So, why does the focus exist on bearing children sooner in our lives even though we aren’t mentally fit for it? Does being physically fit take precedence over being mentally ready – logically, it shouldn’t. To thoroughly devour the journey of bearing and raring a kid, you need to be seasoned and practical. Here are two reasons that becoming a mother (or father) later in life is better:
Firstly, older parents are better equipped for parenthood. Older parents are less stressed about income or job security tend to be more patient and can spend more time with their children. Parents that have more secondary education (to fall back on) can also offer more specific stimulation to their children, which can be helpful for development. An investigation of 8- to 12-year-olds explored how specific parenting beliefs and behaviors – such as reading, constructive play and emotional support- affected child development. The research published in the Journal of Family Psychology concluded that parental education and income positively affect child achievement. More money meant better overall development of the child also – more hobby classes, more vacations and more educational toys that help in cognitive development.
Secondly, better financial position of the mother means she’s in better health. Meaning, mental health versus physical health. Taking increased earning potential into consideration, another study concluded that waiting to have children – even until age 40 and older – is associated with long-term benefits for children. The study published last year in the journal Population and Development Review revealed several pluses: Children born to older mothers stayed in the educational system longer, did better on standardized, and were more likely to go to college than their peers who were born to younger mothers. The researchers also found that because older mothers have likely stayed in school longer, they use more extensive vocabularies when interacting with their young children. The study notes that having this kind of parental role model often translates to how children communicate themselves and how they perform in school.
Yay!! Anyone else jumping to this? Go have fun, ladies and guys. Parenthood isn’t for the frail, it requires constant readjustments because your child is learning on a daily basis, extracting material for their brains from various stimulants around them. You have to be secure, happy and stable in your mind and in your life in order to provide stability and happiness in theirs. Just as during turbulent times (on a plane), you’re asked to protect yourself before you protect your little one’s, you need to follow the same prescript in life too.