Growing up, we were enamoured with the unblemished beauties of those "Lux" soap girls and Pageant Queens, arousing us to want to attain their levels of (fabled) perfection. Undoubtedly, it is media which is to condemn. Only beauty is marketable, not the product, sadly. Media tends to produce sort of unattainable images for women. The absolute, true fact is that men lure for these women. The satiny skin, luscious lips, boat-shaped eyes, flowy locks, all things physical. No feelings, no emotions, whatsoever. This often leads to eating disorders, thus resulting into negative body image. We live in a culture where being rail-thin sets an example for being near-perfect, it is highly valued for women, wealth and success are often considered to go hand in hand with a slim figure. If this is the perspective of society we live in, then it becomes much more difficult to have a straight-mind about having a positive body image. Here are three steps which can help you walk the fine line within becoming insane with your body and appreciating/nurturing what you have:
Firstly, women, appreciate all that your body can do. Every day your body carries you closer to your dreams. It gives you the strength to perform simple tasks such as feeding your kids to more complex ones like writing-off losses in the balance sheet of your company. Or the more fun things which make you feel unearthly like running a marathon, dancing in a Cuban club, laughing with your gals and mapping out your ambitions.
Secondly, remind yourself that “true beauty” is not simply skin deep. A pimple on your forehead shouldnt "swell-up" the sorrow-meter of your day. Beauty is a state of mind, not a state of your body. When you feel good about yourself and who you are, you carry yourself with a sense of confidence and openness that permeates into your relationships. A happy you contributes much more value to your loved ones than an unhappy you. Your quality of life improves two-fold. Also, it makes you beautiful regardless of whether you physically look like those Hollywood glam-dolls.
Thirdly, surround yourself with positive, like-minded people. It is easier to feel good about yourself and your body when you are around others who are supportive of your appearance and recognize the importance of liking yourself just as you are. Shut down those voices in your head that tell you your body is not “right” or that you are a “bad” person. You can overpower those negative thoughts with positive ones, by being picky. Harbour off comments which you cant achieve, if you have an hour-glass figure, you cant be a size-one. Wear clothes which flatter your body. Thus you're the boss of which advise to listen to and which to ward off.
To conclude, a lot of the negative body image happens by us spending too much time and efforts worrying about food, calories, fitting into stylish clothes, blindly participating into fashion trends. To create a change in body image, you can be like the drop in the ocean. If you have a positive body image, you have a positive attitude towards life, and thus you can channel this positivity into helping your peers. Sometimes, helping people can help you feel better about yourself and can make a positive change in the world - the bigger picture.